生命重整系列
(五)言中有「物」
經文
俗語有雲：「一言可以興邦，一言可以喪邦。」
無數的破裂人際關係，皆因舌頭造成，然而適當有智慧地運用我們的舌頭，卻可以建立人，甚至救回人的生命。
A. 破冰
在你的感覺中，「甚麼說話」或「怎樣說的話」令你最反感？聽了後立刻想「轉台」，「關機」或「贈番佢幾句」？
以下的經文教導我們甚麼有關人講的說話？
《箴言18：4, 6-7》
18:4人口中的言語如同深水；智慧的泉源好像湧流的河水。
18:6愚昧人張嘴啟爭端，開口招鞭打。
18:7愚昧人的口自取敗壞；他的嘴是他生命的網羅。
《雅各書3：5-6》
這樣，舌頭在百體裏也是最小的，卻能說大話。看哪，最小的火能點著最大的樹林。舌頭就是火，在我們百體中，舌頭是個罪惡的世界，能污穢全身，也能把生命的輪子點起來，並且是從地獄裏點著的。
B. 研經／討論
聖經不斷提醒我們要謹慎我們的言語，要小心些甚麼呢？
撒謊
1.
《箴言6：16-19，12：22》
6:16耶和華所恨惡的有六樣，連他心所憎惡的共有七樣：
6:17就是高傲的眼，撒謊的舌，流無辜人血的手，
6:18圖謀惡計的心，飛跑行惡的腳，
6:19吐謊言的假見證，並弟兄中布散紛爭的人。
12:22說謊言的嘴為耶和華所憎惡；行事誠實的，為他所喜悅。
神最討厭的說話是甚麼呢？在使徒行傳5:1-11，為何神會對亞拿尼亞和撒非喇（只說了一些與事實有少少距離的說話）的懲罰會如此嚴厲？
2. 按心理學家及社會學的分析，一般人會在下列情形說謊：
- 父母要求很高、很嚴格和得苛刻，子女為了保護自己免受責打，便會說謊。
- 當人遇到危難，感到自己的幸福或生命受到威脅時，也會說謊。
- 為免所愛的人擔心，或者不想所愛的人不開心。
- 自小養成的習慣。
- 貪方便，想較快或較易達到自己的期望。
- 為了取得某些利益或好處。
- 以為是白色大話，沒有相干。
3.
《箴言26：26-28》虛謊的舌對自己或別人有甚麼禍害？
26:26他雖用詭詐遮掩自己的怨恨，他的邪惡必在會中顯露。
26:27挖陷坑的，自己必掉在其中；滾石頭的，石頭必反滾在他身上。
26:28虛謊的舌恨他所壓傷的人；諂媚的口敗壞人的事。
4.
《以弗所書4：25》聖經教導我們以一個甚麼態度及情緒去處理謊言，原因何在？怎樣應用在臻靈團的處境中？
所以，你們要棄絕謊言，各人與鄰舍說實話，因為我們是互相為肢體。
吹水
5.
《箴言10：19，14：23，14：3上，21：23，19：28上，12：18，22：14》
10:19多言多語難免有過；禁止嘴唇是有智慧。
14:23諸般勤勞都有益處；嘴上多言乃致窮乏。
14:3 愚妄人口中驕傲，如杖責打己身；
21:23謹守口與舌的，就保守自己免受災難。
19:28匪徒作見證戲笑公平；
12:18說話浮躁的，如刀刺人；智慧人的舌頭卻為醫人的良藥。
22:14淫婦的口為深坑；耶和華所憎惡的，必陷在其中。
這裡所指的「多言」與「健談」、「友善」有何分別？
6. 為何「多言」會引致「窮乏」及「災難」及「如刀刺人」，「用杖責打己身」, 理由何在？
7. 「淫婦的口」是指甚麼？與「being social」有何分別？為何是一個深坑？
（註：淫婦的口未必一定指女性，也可用在男士身上）
易怒
8.
《箴言29：11，15：28，15：1》智慧人及愚妄人在處理自己怒氣上有何不同？聖經提出一些甚麼實際的方法可以幫助你吾好「火爆」？
29:11 愚妄人怒氣全發；智慧人忍氣含怒。
15:28 義人的心，思量如何回答；惡人的口吐出惡言。
15:1 回答柔和，使怒消退；言語暴戾，觸動怒氣。
《雅各書1：19-20》
你們各人要快快的聽，慢慢的說，慢慢的動怒，因為人的怒氣並不成就神的義。
傳舌
9.
《箴言11：13，17：9，20：19，26：20,22，30：10》這裡的傳舌是指甚麼？ 與「交通」，「分享代禱事項」有何分別？這些說話為何「如同美食深入人的心腹」？
11:13 往來傳舌的，洩漏密事；心中誠實的，遮隱事情。
17:9 遮掩人過的，尋求人愛；屢次挑錯的，離間密友。
20:19 往來傳舌的，洩漏密事；大張嘴的，不可與他結交。
26:20 火缺了柴就必熄滅；無人傳舌，爭競便止息。
26:22 傳舌人的言語，如同美食，深入人的心腹。
30:10 你不要向主人讒謗僕人，恐怕他咒詛你，你便算為有罪。
良言
10.
《箴言16：24，12：25，15：7，10：21，10：11，12：6，15：1,23,30》
16:24良言如同蜂房，使心覺甘甜，使骨得醫治。
12:25人心憂慮，屈而不伸；一句良言，使心歡樂。
15:7智慧人的嘴播揚知識；愚昧人的心並不如此。
10:21義人的口教養多人；愚昧人因無知而死亡。
10:11義人的口是生命的泉源；強暴蒙蔽惡人的口。
12:6惡人的言論是埋伏流人的血；正直人的口必拯救人。
15:1回答柔和，使怒消退；言語暴戾，觸動怒氣。
15:23口善應對，自覺喜樂；話合其時，何等美好。
15:30眼有光，使心喜樂；好信息，使骨滋潤。
「良言」是甚麼？
神不是叫我們不說話，是叫我們要有節制地說話。這裏教導我們該學習多說一些甚麼 話及怎樣說？對自己, 對身邊的人有什麼影響?
C. 反醒／應用
12.
《雅各書3：11-12》人的言語反映人內在的生命，請問一個
泉源從一個眼裏能發出甜苦兩樣的水嗎？我的弟兄們，無花果樹能生橄欖嗎？葡萄樹能結無花果嗎？鹹水裏也不能發出甜水來。
- 常常說謊的人 （反映一個甚麼生命）
- 傳舌，說人閒話，搬弄事非的人
- 褻瀆，嬉笑，取笑別人
- 罵人，出口傷人，譭謗
- 自誇，論斷別人
14. 請分享人可有甚麼行動去改變自己的言語/生命，一個親密的小組可扮演一個甚麼角色？
Journey Fellowship Bible Study
Transforming, Overcoming, and the Power of God Series
Talk with “Substances”
Scriptures
As the Chinese saying goes: “A word could unify a whole nation but it could also destroy a whole nation.”
Numerous broken relationships were due to the tongue (words from the mouth). However, the appropriate use of our tongue (with wisdom) can establish people, or even save lives.
A. Ice-breaking
Based on your feelings, “what words” or "how the words are expressed" make you the most upset? After listening, it makes you want to immediately "change the channel", "shutdown" or "reply back"?
The following Scriptures teach us about what is related to humans’ speech.
{PROVERBS 18: 4, 6-7}
18:4 The words of a man's mouth are deep waters, but the fountain of wisdom is a bubbling brook.
18:6 A fool's lips bring him strife, and his mouth invites a beating.
18:7 A fool's mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul.
{JAMES 3:5-6}
5Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
B. Bible Study/Discussion
The bible continuously reminds us to watch out our words, but what exactly do we have to be careful with?
Lie/Deceitfulness
1.
{PROVERBS 6:16-19, 12:22}What are the words that God hates the most? In Acts 5:1-11, why God’s punishment to Ananias and Sapphira is so severe? (They just said something that is a little bit off from the reality.)
6:16 There are six things the LORD hates, seven that are detestable to him:
6:17 haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood,
6:18 a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil,
6:19 a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.
12:22 The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful.
2. According to psychologists and sociological analysis, most people will lie in the following circumstances:
- very demanding, very strict and very harsh parents; in order to protect themselves from spanking, their children would lie.
- when people encounter a crisis, or feel their happiness or life is threatened, they would lie.
- in order to avoid their loved ones to be worried or unhappy.
- childhood habit.
- convenience's sake, want to reach their goals faster or easier.
- in order to obtain some benefit or advantage.
- thought it was a white lie, it doesn’t matter.
3.
{PROVERBS 26:26-28}What harms will a lying tongue bring to himself or others?
26:26 His malice may be concealed by deception, but his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly.
26:27 If a man digs a pit, he will fall into it; if a man rolls a stone, it will roll back on him.
26:28 A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin.
4.
{EPHESIANS 4:25}What kind of attitude and emotions the Bible teaches us to have when dealing with lies, why is that? How to apply in Journey Fellowship’s situation?
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.
Water Blowing / Pointless Talk
5.
{PROVERBS 10:19, 14:23, 14:3a, 21:23, 19:28a, 12:18, 22:14}What is the difference between “many words”, “talkative”, and “friendly”?
10:19 When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.
14:23 All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.
14:3 A fool's talk brings a rod to his back,
21:23 He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity.
19:28 A corrupt witness mocks at justice,
12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
22:14 The mouth of an adulteress is a deep pit; he who is under the LORD's wrath will fall into it.
6: Why “when words are many” leads to “poverty”/ “calamity”/ “pierce like a sword”/ “a rod to his back”? Why is that?
7. “The mouth of an adulteress” refers to what? What is the difference compared to “being social”? Why is that considered as “deep pit”?
Note: The mouth of an adulteress could apply to men as well.
Easily-angered
8.
{PROVERBS 29:11, 15:28, 15:1}
29:11 A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
15:28 The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.
15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
{JAMES 1:19-20}How do wise people and fools differ in handling their own anger? What are some practical ways that the Bible suggests to help you not to get easily "exploded"?
19My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.
Gossip
9.
{PROVERBS 11：13，17：9，20：19，26：20,22，30：10}The above-mentioned “gossip” refers to what? What is the difference with “fellowship communication” and “sharing & praying for others” activities? How those words are like “choice morsels that go down to a man's inmost parts”?
11:13 A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.
17:9 He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
20:19 A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much.
26:20 Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.
26:22 The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts.
30:10 Do not slander a servant to his master, or he will curse you, and you will pay for it.
Good Words
10.
{PROVERBS 16：24，12：25，15：7，10：21，10：11，12：6，15：1,23,30}What are “good words”?
16:24 Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
12:25 An anxious heart weighs a man down, put a kind word cheers him up.
15:7 The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of fools.
10:21 The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgment.
10:11 The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but violence overwhelms the mouth of the wicked.
12:6 The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the speech of the upright rescues them.
15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
15:23 A man finds joy in giving an apt reply—and how good is a timely word!
15:30 A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.
God did not ask us not to talk, but rather speaking with our tongue under control. What kind of words the above passages teach us to say more? How do we say it? What influence does it have on ourself and on surrounding people?
C. Self-Reflection/ Application
12.
{JAMES 3:11-12}People's language reflects their inner life, what kind of life does this following reflect:
11Can both fresh water and salt[a] water flow from the same spring? 12My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.
- a person that lies often ->
- gossipping, talking behind the back of others… ->
- profane, laughing, making fun of others ->
- curse, hurting others verbally, slander ->
- boast, judge others ->
14. Please share what actions could a person have in changing one’s life in speech? What role could a close cell group act?
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